Friendly folk of New York City
When we came to New York, I expected the mood and energy to be kind of hard-edged and cold, something like this:
But in fact, New York has turned out to be a lot more like this:
Really and truly, it’s the friendliest city I’ve ever been in. It might just be Spring weather and nice vibes that brings, but we’ve had such friendly, unguarded interactions with people on the street, in kiosks, guards in shops – actually, just about everyone in these six weeks has been so friendly, it’s ridiculous!
If you’ve been reading this blog, you’ll know about some of the people I’ve met online, and now in reality, including superstars like Michelle and Helen and Carolyn, and the other online friends and colleagues I’ve hooked up with too, like Jen, Margaret and Anna. But these gals were heading towards being friends already, so their kindness wasn’t too unexpected (although massively appreciated). It was the random intense generosity that astonished hardbitten old me. To wit:
Steven, who we met when I was buying my folding bike at Bfold. He’s emailed us so many ideas of where to go and what to see while we’re here, and is even now is helping me to get access to the Quaker Cemetery to visit my g-g-g-Grandfather’s 19th century bones. Thank you, Steven, you’re an inspiration. (check out Steven’s Brommie Yummie website for small-wheel bike excitement)
And how about the quite random conversation we had with David in a Soho bar one evening, which turned quickly into a great friendship. He’s been unbelievable, helping us access some truly unforgettable musical experiences (Jim Campilongo , Andy Friedman and Natalia Zukerman ), and he’s also assisted with Paul’s Grateful Dead inclinations. We like his wife a whole lot as well 🙂
Pam and Paul, friends of our friend (and one-time New Yorker) Kelly, have taken us in as well, showing me around Brooklyn Designs and ICFF, and introducing us to their lovely bunch of DUMBO pals. Thanks, Sundays!
And how about Tom, who took Paul out to lunch and told him about raccoons sleeping in the trees, amongst other fascinating things, all on the strength of the fact that he’s a friend of a friend… of a friend!
Then there’s just the random, no-agenda friendliness that amazes me each time, like the lady in Central Park from Colorado, who told us a whole lot about North American birds, the guy who told me my hairdresser did a great job while passing me on a subway station… too many to go on about. If I was a songwriter I’d write ’em a jaunty ‘thank you’ ode, but I’m not, so all I can offer is my sincere intention to practise a similar unguarded friendliness upon my return to the big bad city of Cape Town. You guys have taught me a lot – thanks for that too. xx
Michelle | Cicada Studio
I think you just bring out the best in people.
xo
Fatima
Aww….
I miss New York! We were supposed to come by next week, but ended up visiting family in Connecticut instead. I know, I know, Connecticut is like 45mins away…*sigh* Time is of the essence…
I’m on my way back to SA next week.
My husband’s studies at Harvard are over and I’m reallllly sad to leave Boston.
*sigh*
Enjoy whatever time you have left here. 🙂
Fatima
I made a typo in the previous comment.
I meant ‘last week’ in relation to visiting NYC.
This happens to a person that’s only had 4 hours of sleep in the past 48hours.
😉
DoJo
I agree with Michelle – a whole lot of what you have said is due to the fact that you are both really super, vibey, interested and interesting people! We are looking forward to getting you back to CT again – just in time to smile at all the people who have come to see the Football World Cup!!!
michelle/nft
I felt that way about New York when I visited too and I don’t have half the anecdotes you do for proof. I once described the difference between New York and London this way (I’ve lived in London and didn’t love it as much as I’d hoped):
New Yorkers wake up each morning thinking the day is going to be better than the day before and act accordingly. Londoners wake up each morning thinking the day is going to be worse than the day before and act accordingly.
A total generalization, but I’m standing by it! 🙂
skinnylaminx
Interesting! It does seem a bit like that. Of course, it does help that the streets aren’t full of junkies, drunks and homeless people, as the constant requests for things does tend to engender a wary attitude. (That’s not London I’m typifying, I must add. It’s a rather jaded view of Cape Town. Got to throw in a mix of models and movie moguls in there too)
Giulietta
Love the accompanying pics!
Amelia
The thing is, half of the people in New York are from somewhere else. We all came here and had to make our way in this city, so it’s only fair to extend a helping hand. In some ways New York is really like a huge small town- I can’t tell you the number of chance, on the street encounters I’ve had with people I know from elsewhere, and there are a bajillion people in the city.
True, there are plenty of grumpy people, or grumpy days, but I really feel most like a New Yorker when I have to pass through Times Square and can scowl at all the tourists. I think it helps that you’ve made it clear that you are here to enjoy the city we all love, not gawk at the tourist attractions.
Enjoy the rest of your time!
skinnylaminx
Even I feel like scowling at the tourists in Times Square! Thanks so much for being so nice about sharing your city with us. I get the feeling that it’s also got to do with the fact that you all really like it here yourselves. xx
helen:)
Oh… who could be not nice around you:)
Totally share your feelings about NY!
Paula
Am loving your posts on NY! Thank you! Happy Memorial Day weekend!
skinnylaminx
Thanks! Same to you. xx
Anna @ D16
This post made me feel SO proud and happy. Nothing makes a New Yorker (whether born or made) feel better than being helpful — and that’s the truth.
We love people from other places! It’s just like Amelia said (and like a comment I left on my own blog earlier today), we are a city of strangers from far and wide, but we’re always happy to claim another “outsider” as our own. 🙂
The Zhush
awww….loved seeing my home town city thru your eyes…glad you felt the love!